All in a sudden, I realize love is a heavy word to use on daily basis. Love within family means accepting as a whole package. "love" between friends is too fragile. Things can go wrong any time or circumstances change, feelings change too. It takes two to tangle. When "out of sight, out of mind" rules, effort on my side alone feels the pain of selling short of myself. it is just nature of relationship, repeating " I love you" means nothing if people don't live together or something hold them together, like business, like phylosophy.... It is okay to change. It takes time and instances to know a person. after a while, you realize he or she is not the type who would give either time or care in return, it is okay to admit it is a mistake. It is okay to change mind. It is okay to walk away. To some people, I tried too hard to be their friend, to be on my best behavior. I don't have to. Trying too hard only makes me feel exhausted. I wish I could forget the numbers quickly. Some are too cold for me. Don't even get close to them. Linda

I realize career is very important to me, family is very important to me. But ultimate joy for comes from clicking with people. The "oh yeah" moments mean a lot to me. Years of experience taught me to be as forgiving as I can. I find the dead end of a friendship mostly due to two words: unattainability and unattenability. If a person is cold and too self-indulging, there's nothing else I can do but to walk away. My resolution to myself in 2008 is to be a better listener. Some people come with the talent and make people around feel so good. I should practice more.