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February 21 How to be contentToday is my first day since last May which I will spend without reading a book. Don't get me wrong, I am not that nerdy, it is just that I have been preparing my bar exam which is said to be a monster. I started this day by talking to my dear Mom. My mom is a very loving, caring and supportive person but constantly suffer pain of disappointment arising from people around her. Out of love, I let her vent out and luckily I understand her more today. Details of story are not important. What is important is the inspiration I received from the conversation. Let's call it " How to be content?"
We all live only once. Life is too precious not to be happy and content. Phylosophy, psycology, even bible, in essence have taught us wisdom as to how to be happy. The core is to know what to expect and how to deal with both expected and unexpected.
What to expect from people? Emotionally people are on three levels, warm, luckwarm and cold. Warm people are givers, care-takers. luckwarm people are those who are not comfortable to give without being asked but they know about giving back or appreciating. Cold people are those who don't even like to give back. They are takers.
Warm people give the most but get hurt the most because most others cannot match their giving emotionally and literally. They give, give and give to realize they are actually ignored. As a matter of fact, it is not that luckwarm people or cold people are bad in heart. The reason they don't show love or give love first is that they are not capable of doing so. They are not capable of showing, not unwilling to.
So, if we know what we have got oursleves into, we know we have no right and no capability to change anyone's personality, we will know to protect ourselves by not giving to the wrong person. Then we will be content with ourselves and forgive others, knowing they are just not as capable as we are in this regard. and more importantly, appreciate those who really love us.
Mom, don't be sad becasue this is the way it is. We are here and we love you.
February 10 Wisdom and JoyEconomy is in great depression, so do people. The other day while jogging on treadmill and watching TV, I saw the author promoting his book called "9 steps to deal with hardship.". He said that the first step is to seek for wisdom. Bingo, Amen! The author seem to be my kind of person. I have been told so many times, since I was little that I think too much. I think I am guilty as charged. Most time I have been thinking about wisdom. I seem to see phylosophy, culture, psychology, ugliness, beauty in every little thing. I have been mindful about everything almost all the time. I want to mingle into "simplicity", and I tried but can't help learning something from any single instance. This author seems to be on my side. I may be on an unhealthy extreme, but if people prepare ourselves for rainy days by thinking hard about rules of joyful life, dealing with hardship can only be financial burden, as opposed to a mental one. So, why not being mindful? |
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