Linda Liang

在我们的生活中, 我们时不时不听到抱怨. 我也抱怨. 一个例子就是我的一个朋友, 多年来一直是好朋友. 他是个地产经纪, 所以我在买房子的时候别无选择. 可是呢, 在我找房子的时候, 他却一点都不积极. 我推一下, 他动一下. 后来我才知道, 他在代理一个2个MILLION的大客户, 没有时间理我. 那我就自己找房子, 而且找到了. 再后来, 他自动帮我选了CLOSING AGENT. 我表示是不是可以SHOPPING AROUND. 他口气中显出了很不耐烦,找个借口把我的电话挂了.  我让了步, 不选了. 类似的事情出了若干次. 我开始觉得不舒服了, 心想: 我是出钱的, 我有权利选择和谁做生意, 出多少钱. 如果是别的地产商, 至少不会吼我. 回家和老公抱怨了. 老公说, 哎, 人无完人, 你只能接受他啦.

 

想想也是. 如果人和人之间不走近, 你就看不到他/她的优缺点. 走近后, 缺点就显得突出, 而且因为距离的原因, 缺点就会伤得到我们. 我如果期待他有这些缺点, 我就当他是普通人来接触, 是怎样就是怎样啦. 其实这也是我们想要别人对待我们的缺点的方法, 不是吗?

 

再想想也是. 都说了, 要用自己愿意被对待的方式对待别人. 做人要宽容. 宽容的第一步是接受不完美.

 

让我们接受不完美吧.

 

早上起来跑步, 穿过绿绿的NEIGHBORHOOD, 呼吸着甜甜的空气, 不由得想到: 新的一天开始了. 小的时候我们是为明天而活着的.展望明天是生活中的一大主题. 到了生活的这个阶段, 才开始意识到, 其实我们的每一天象在抽屉里的卡片, 抽一张少一张, 有少不多呢, 而且每天时间可短了. 我们是不是该积极地往我们的日子中装添内容, 忙碌也好, 享受生活也好, 就是不能浪费在无意义的事上呢?

 

     

 

California Bar Exam is known as the hardest test in the states. It is well known that people from good law schools have to try 3, 4 times or even more. The record is one tried 14 times. I was warned because I have never been to law school in my life. I did not even sit in a prep course. All I have is material book and a tutor who tells me what I did wrong.

Long story short, I was very close on the first attempt. Without hesitation, I tried for the second time. I put my life on hold and give all my time to the test prep. So one day before my test result came out , I happened to talk with this friend of mine I knew from college. We spent a lot of time together in a "group" so we knew each other very well. When I told him that I was scared to death, he said,  you know you are at that level already. You can do it.  He said that as a statement of fact, not a compliments. Second day, he called again. I told him, yeah, I did pass. He again calmly said: " I am not surprised. Of course you will."

 

California Bar is very hard. It does test on a lot of rules and applicants' capability to apply the rules. This is beside the point. The point is that when you are climbing up a mountain, if does feel wonderful when somebody shows sincere faith in you. Gee, it feels good when someone believes in me.

 

I do have an eye for someone's talents and great traits. I always tell them. Now I know how great it feels myself, I will do it more. You?

Woke up in the morning and realized it was 19th of Nov. I also realized that it is my brother's birthday today. My brother is in China and 19th is actually yesterday. He called me yesterday morning to check on me but I did not recall that moment was his birthday. I did not recall when I called him back in the evening neither. Last year he wrote to me to say that everyone forgot his birthday! Guilty, guilty, guilty! I spent half an hour trying all numbers I have to reach him. I finally found him in the party with parents. Luckily they did not forget this time. I also called his friends and asked them to call him too.

 

It dounns on me that we spent way too much energy worring about why people who don't care much. Of course, it is not everyone's duty to show care and it is understandable that everyone has their lives to run, yet we almost forgot people who are by our sides all the time regardlessly. If we do, we are guilty as charged.

 

It also douns on me that my 6 years of working in Chengdu seemed to be such a short time. Why? because we had as many people who care about us as many who don't. Overall, we were happy. Happy days fly even faster. We have no right to blame people for not caring or showing caring because they are not obligated to. However, we should count the blessings for every instances when we are loved!

 

I miss Chengdu mostly because love is in the air, in Chengdu! It is love that makes the world better place to live, nothing else.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I went to work for this company for 2 days. I went out with this girl. She is 26 years old or so. She was so open. On the way to her clients, she told me all about her: where she wnt to school, who paid for her tuition...how old her boyfriend was, where he was now and what he was doing...how she felt about this job...I can't say I learned everything about her but I can sense, if time allows, I could learn a lot about her. I enjoyed her complete honesty and I liked her. I pondered to myself: gee, I wish I could do the same.

 

In our daily interaction, we constantly judged what to tell, what not to tell and how to tell because we are afraid either the audience don't care to know or the sharing will someday backfire us. In most occassions, we just shut up in order to be safe. Over time, we don't even share with ourselves. However, we miss the joy associated with sharing. In USA, everyone lives in a me me me world. what happens to another soul at this moment does not matter. So we announce how much we love our families and leave friendship totally out. As the result, each one of us is lonely somehow and we can't say we really lived fully.

 

Trust too much, we will get hurt. Trust too little, we never lived. I hope each one of us finds the balance.